With divorce rates going up y the day, there is an increasing distrust among people about the commitment involved in the relationship of marriage. Many people have gone to the extent of taking the decision to not get married to avoid all the hassles – emotional and mental, associated with it. People today hence prefer to live-in with their partners rather than commit themselves to the relationship. However, the fact remains that marriage is a sacred institution and when you want to take your relationship to the next level, you should definitely consider getting married.
Truly speaking, it is too early to write off the relationship called marriage. While there is no denying the fact that couples need to work really hard to make sure that their marriage doesn’t hit the rocks, there are also many couples who see an easy and smooth married life. What these couples do differently is something that we have researched and have found that most of the successful married couples who lead rocking married life exhibit more or less similar characteristics when it was about dealing with their married lives. These things have worked in the past and there is no reason that all of them won’t work now.
Making your marriage work or rather enjoying your marriage depends largely on how you perceive it and what future you see for it. Yes, this is one relationship that requires your time and effort. If you would like to keep your marriage safe and are also interested in making it strong with each passing year, here are some widely tested ways that you can easily adopt.
Marriage is not just about romance. Get off the fairy-tale mode.
No matter how much your were in love or how passionately you made love before you both decided to get married, it is important to understand that romance and passion will eventually fade a little, even if you continue to be loving and caring towards each other. After the initial honeymoon period, the reality sets in, you will realize that romance no longer comes as effortlessly to you both as it did during your courtship period. Now, you will have to make that extra effort. Try to take some time off and make an effort to rekindle the romance you both shared.
You are man and wife but you still have your individual identities.
With marriage, you don’t have to merge your individuality with that of your partner. Don’t give up on your dreams and your goals just because you are now married. You have to keep your individuality alive and this way you will continue to live an independent life and enjoy the company of your partner. If you give up your aspirations and aims, you will lose out on yourself and this will eventually affect your relationship with your spouse. Also, give space to each other. Just because you are married does not necessarily mean you have to cling on to each other at all times.
Fight. It is normal.
If you are a couple and if you don’t have couple fights then you are probably living an unrealistic life. Fighting is actually good as it makes your bond stronger but fight on issues that are important not on petty things. Also, always try to discuss and conclude your arguments before you go to bed. Have a healthy argument and this means don’t get personal.
Parenting. Be ready to share the load.
Marriage inevitably will bring you both to a stage when you will consider expanding your marriage. Considering today’s times when both partners have their respective career and professional commitments, it is important to take a decision to become parents after careful thought and after being sure that both of you are ready for it. Parenting is the responsibility of both parents. Understand that and believe in that.